Tuesday, August 26, 2014
TD and I had the most wonderful cat for seventeen years named Rose but recently we had to say good-bye and put her down. Oh, it is so hard and heartbreaking to lose a beloved pet.
We found Rose on a farm seventeen years ago in Fort Edwards, in upstate New York, near where my uncle Brian and his wife Susan live. Susan had spotted a sign for kittens at the farm and so we went down to investigate. It was a Fourth of July weekend and the farmer and his wife were not home. But we watched the passel of kittens roaming around the yard and we chose our favorite who was the most lively one. We returned later when the farmer and his wife were there and picked up the kitten and named her Rose.
Here is a picture of TD and Rose the year we got her -
She was wonderful company over the years, a sweet girl who enjoyed being with people. She would follow me from room to room like a shadow. She liked to sit in between us on the couch, and she got on the bed at night and slept next to me. Later we got a little cat named Bell, and they they were often together and touched each other when they slept.
Kidney problems and thyroid problems are common in older cats, and Rose developed some but we did not treat them really aggressively because we had been badly burned in the past by a terrible vet.
When our first cat Katie was twelve years old she had a thyroid issue and we took her to Dr. Ann Wayne Lucas at Washington Square Animal Hospital on E. 9th Street. For Katie she prescribed Tapazole which caused the cat to become anemic and after $5,000 of blood transfusions (at the Fifth Avenue Veterinary Specialist hospital on W. 15th Street which you should avoid at all costs), our cat Katie needlessly died. Dr. Ann Wayne Lucas was not familiar with this reaction to Tapazole, even though a simple Google search shows that it can be a problem. After Katie died, she sent us a condolence note which said it had been "a learning experience" for her.
We do not recommend Washington Square Animal Hospital or Dr. Ann Wayne Lucas.
We have a wonderful vet now - Dr. Maureen Hurson at City Vet Care on West 72nd Street who is fantastic and we recommend her highly.
We had old Rose checked up regularly and she was doing ok but one day a couple weeks ago she started to fail. Without going into the myriad details, we were told that the problems were insurmountable and that it this point she would be very uncomfortable.
TD on the last night with our Rose -
And so we decided to let her go so that she would not suffer further. It all happened very fast over one weekend in August and it was a shocking development. Afterwards, my heart actually hurt. We miss her terribly. Bell seems to be depressed without her and sometimes Bell cries out. Rose was a good companion for all of us.
That night after she was gone we got some roses for our old Rose -
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
Cynthia and Barb with yours truly, the official witness.
My sister Cynthia and her partner Barb from Colorado recently came to town for some jolly celebrations.
First up, they got married!
They came to New York City to tie the knot as same-sex marriage is not yet passed in Colorado. With all of their paper work done ahead of time, they were scheduled to get married at the City Clerk office one recent morning. I was honored that they asked me to be their witness.
That morning I put on a tie and a jacket and looked in the mirror and saw looking back at me my uncle Brian Mumford and my grandmother Florence Mumford. I was bringing the spirit of my mother with me.
I met Cynthia and Bart outside the City Clerk office early and we went in. The Marriage Bureau is a nice big municipal space with marble walls and high ceilings. Other couples were there too to get married. New York's wonderful spectrum was represented with straight and gay couples and all different races and creeds and ages and sizes and colors and mixed marriages. Everyone was in a happy, celebratory mood, and the people who worked there were very pleasant and helpful. I believe that New York is marketing itself as a wedding destination. It was a very fun experience.
First we got a numbered ticket and waited for the number to light up over a window, like at the Department of Motor Vehicles. We proceeded to the right window to sign papers and then we were directed to wait outside a chapel where a Justice of the Peace presided. There were couples ahead of us and behind us and everyone was taking pictures. Then we were ushered into a bright, cheerful, pink room where the short Justice of the Peace stood behind a tall podium and recited the vows.
We were in and out in less than an hour.
Afterwards we went to lunch. Cynthia said to me, "Thank you for coming and thank you for paving the way."
The next night Cynthia and Barb hosted a celebratory family dinner at a tapas restaurant in Chelsea called Tia Pol where we commandeered the back private room and enjoyed a never ending procession of delicious tapas and red wine -
The following evening my brother Thom and his family hosted a birthday party for Cynthia at their apartment (a big birthday for her).
Here we are, the four siblings - Thom, me, Cynthia, Eric - on Thom's deck -
followed by the Boehlert boys - my father, nephew Aaron and his father Thom, me, nephew Ben and his father Eric -
We enjoyed a wonderful dinner on the deck with the buildings of the Flatiron District rising around us -
It was a great weekend of happy events. Thanks to Cynthia for bringing the party to New York.
Since then I have been to two funerals. Enjoy the present moment the best you can.
Live and love.
Wednesday, July 9, 2014
It's time for a trip to the Charles James exhibit currently up at the Metropolitan Museum of Art through August 10th. Charles James was the great American couturier who famously draped and shaped some of the most beautiful dresses created in the American haute couture. James, who was self-taught, designed in his native London before arriving in New York City in 1940. The designer was an artist whose medium was fabric and whose dresses were masterpieces. He was renowned for his striking color combinations, and his cut and construction, always refining and perfecting his living sculptures. But he was also eccentric and had a hard time running a business. The designer lived and worked in one room in the Chelsea Hotel on West 23rd Street. When he passed away there in 1978 at the age of 73 of pneumonia, he was largely unrecognized and unappreciated. However, his structured dresses with narrow waists and flaring skirts influenced Christian Dior when Dior created the New Look in the late 40's, and so though he is not a well-known household name, Charles James shaped the direction of fashion.
Photo courtesy of the Metropolitan Museum of Art, photograph by Cecil Beaton.
The exhibition was curated by Harold Koda and Jan Glier Reeder, and is located in two areas at the museum – in the new Anna Wintour Costume Center on the lower level as well as an exhibition gallery on the first floor. The show was designed by Diller Scofidio + Renfro, the New York architects we met at a book party at Ann Ziff's fine jewelry store.
Diller Scofidio + Renfro lit the clothes dramatically to highlight their shape. Charles James loved to combine different fabrics like deep, dark velvet and glossy, lustrous satin –
which is here worn by the great Babe Paley herself.
Photo courtesy of the Metropolitan Museum of Art.
Besides the clothes, there are on display accessories, drawings, videos, and some pithy quotes from Mr. James.
During the press preview for the exhibition, workers were preparing for the big Met Ball which was being held that very night. Here in the Great Hall, a kind of giant deconstructed Charles James ballgown made out of orange roses loomed over the entrance.
I had the pleaure of talking with the brilliant curator Harold Koda at the press preview, and my friend Scott Brasher made a video of the visit. Enjoy this nice long talk with Harold, and learn more about the great American fashion designer Charles James.
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
Sitting in Madison Square Park and looking out to Fifth Avenue. You can get a glass of wine at the Shake Shack and enjoy the park; sometimes there are concerts. (click on photos to enlarge)
I hope you are having a nice summer. It doesn't seem that long ago since the winter snow was falling. Thankfully summer is now here, and it is not yet too hot. I've been enjoying the city and taking some pictures along the way.
Sitting next to me on a bench in Madison Square Park was a young woman looking casually stylish in an embroidered tunic, silky pants, and chic sandals.
One of my favorite events is the Jane Street sale, held in June, when people in Greenwich Village come out and sell their goods.
I bought this big, old, heavy metal container which is meant to hold ashes at the fireplace.
Now, we put kitty litter and other supplies in it in our kitchen. $25. I love it.
Over on the Hudson River, boats passed each other on a sunny day.
Up at Bryant Park, the lilies are in full bloom. The flowers there are so pretty.
This talented young woman was singing and playing an accordian in Bryant Park - wonderful!
At Bergdorf Goodman, horses are the current window theme.
I had lunch at the Coffee Shop on Union Square with my niece Jane who was much smaller when we started this blog... This summer she is off to art school. Where did the time go? I am her proud godfather.
We took a weekend trip out to Connecticut for Father's Day and had lunch at the Stone House Restaurant.
Here is my nephew Ben, brother Eric, and my pa.
After lunch we had a quick trip to the beach
and the following day we went to the beach at Hammonasset State Park where the rugosa roses were in fragrant bloom -
This weekend we had a successful trip to the Union Square Farmer's Market, where fresh flowers, lettuce and bread are now plentiful.
Sunday was the Gay Pride Parade so TD and I marched down Fifth Avenue and Christopher Street with the other revelers -
We stopped for a glass of water along Fifth Avenue -
TD and I say equal rights for all!
Saturday, June 14, 2014
Last week TD and I attended a preview screening for the new movie Burning Blue about a love affair between two Navy pilots. The movie was written and directed by DMW Greer, who spoke eloquently before the theater lights went down about how the movie was inspired by an experience he himself had had in the Navy. He originally wrote a play about it which ran in London and then New York, and now has produced this movie.
Set in 1995, the Navy pilots, played by the handsome Trent Ford and Bob Mayes, are caught in Bill Clinton's ridiculous "Don't Ask Don't Tell" policy, when military personnel could still be discharged for being gay. All the snooping and investigating and effort spent to discharge gay people in this movie is truly disheartening. Thank heavens that in 2011 Obama ended the ban on gay people in the military, when he said, "Our military will no longer be deprived of the talents and skills of patriotic Americans just because they happen to be gay or lesbian." Bravo Barack.
The movie features a good story, strong performances, and points to how far gay rights have come since 1995. BB says thumbs up to Burning Blue!
Tuesday, June 3, 2014
Yours truly with Wes Anderson and Hugo Guinness (click on photos to enlarge)
Recently in the mail came an invitation from John Derian to attend an opening party for the latest art works by Hugo Guinness. Most invitations these days come over the email transom so it was a pleasure to open the large paper envelope and unfold a delightful Hugo Guinness watercolor poster which I promptly tacked onto the fireplace mantel.
I have been a big fan of Hugo's artwork from my visits to John Derian, who, along with Mary Randolph Carter, has had a big influence on me. I had not had the pleasure before of meeting Hugo Guinness, who lives in Boerum Hill in Brooklyn with his wife artist Elliott Puckette and their two daughters. Each May he brings his new work to the John Derian store.
The opening, held in John's new furniture store on East 2nd Street, was a breezy fashion/art/publishing gathering with Deborah Needleman, the editor of T: The New York Times Style Magazine, Adam Rapoport, the editor of Bon Appetit magazine, James Truman, Anne McNally, Ken Fulk, Tom Delavan from Gilt.com, Nicholas Manville from Ralph Lauren, and lots more mingling about.
Our host John Derian and Hugo Guinness were in the middle of the room so I got a chance to say hello. "They are things that amuse me," Hugo told me about his watercolors and linoleum prints. "I try to take risks and do something different each year. There are things that are pretty. I don't think there is anything wrong with pretty. I had all these frames and I had to fill them up," he said dryly.
His art, small and large, was hung around the room. I love the light, airy, innocent quality of the work.
While I was talking to Hugo, his friend Wes Anderson came by. What a delight to meet Wes Anderson! I told him I was a big fan of The Darjeeling Limited. Hugo worked with Wes Anderson on the story for the recent film The Budapest Hotel. "I collect Hugo's work and we have been old friends for many, many years," Wes said to me.
Hugo is from the renowned Irish beer and banking Guinness family, and I asked him if he was related to the style icon Daphne Guinness who had the great exhibition at F.I.T. which I covered here on the blog. "Yes, she is my cousin," he reported. "She may be coming tonight."
More garden flowers and a kitty cat –
It was a nice evening so TD and I moseyed around outside on the sidewalk. At the John Derian store next door, I spotted the great American model Lauren Hutton inside shopping.
Lauren Hutton recently turned 70. This is the new 70.
It was a lovely night on East 2nd Street.
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
With Carter at the party for her new book in Soho.
My friend Mary Randolph Carter, who is a long-time creative director at Ralph Lauren and who is known as Carter, just published a new book, and Ralph Lauren hosted a party to celebrate in the RRL store in Soho. I met Carter some years ago when I freelanced at Ralph Lauren (I am also freelancing there now), and we have remained friends since. At Ralph Lauren, she had the most unique office that I have ever encountered in the work place. Layered with antiques, art, textiles, blankets, books and magazines, it was like a trip to a cabin in Maine although it was located at Madison and 60th. Carter has written several books and a favorite of mine is called For the Love of Old which captures in words and pictures her passion for things from the past that have a history. Carter loves antique finds and vintage clothes, and her personal style is completely unique to her and always inspiring.
The new book is about collecting and it's called Never Stop to Think...Do I Have a Place For This? (Carter's last book was A Perfectly Kept House is the Sign of a Misspent Life - Carter likes long titles!)
In this book, she encourages readers not to be deterred by lack of space if they find an antique or collectible they like. "If there is a place in your heart, then there is a place in your home," Carter said to me at her book party. "It gives you permission to find the wackiest thing and embrace it. If you see something and it speaks to you then you don't have to say no. I never have."
Inside, the book profiles nineteen collectors who proudly display their passions. I like the typography of the titles which looks like handmade paper cut outs -
This is the "price tag room" in Stephanie Lloyd's home where she prices items for her shop, Hudson Mercantile, in Hudson, New York -
Here is the New Orleans kitchen of Allain Bush. I like the simplicity of the colors -
Jennifer Lanne's studio in a barn in Saratoga, New York, is a great spot for an artist -
The photography is by Carter Berg who is Carter's son, and it reminds me of The World of Interiors magazine which lovingly captures splendors of the past. This book celebrates following your own voice and pursuing what appeals to you to create a singular personal style that is above and beyond passing trends. I'm a big fan of Carter's artistic approach and it has definitely influenced me.
I love how she signed our book
at her book signing party which was a big ta-doo at the Ralph Lauren RRL store on West Broadway. Carter's many friends and fans mobbed the place -
There was a long bar set up on one counter -
and Carter's book was for sale at the register -
Ralph Lauren himself came to congratulate Carter. The room quieted down and Carter thanked Ralph and noted that when they were introduced she realized that "I met someone who loves more things than I do." Ralph complimented Carter saying, "She's been a great asset to me and the company and she's better than ever."
The RRL store on West Broadway is one of my favorite places, with its vintage-inspired clothes and evocative displays.
It's a trip back in time, and there is a vignette to look at in every corner, like the combination of this antique industrial lamp, leather and canvas messenger bag, and old-fashioned cotton shirt.
Outside as the party wound down, dusk was falling in Soho -
It was kind of magical.